Because of my chronic back (and other) problems, mornings are hard for me. I get reallystiff some mornings to the point that it is hard to move without pain. It is especially hard to bend. Some days it is harder to get going than others and today is one of those days. It’s like the stiffness takes over my mind and makes it stiff too- does that make sense? But I have a lot to do today. I am side-tracked from my “house cleansing” for the moment because of daily chores I need to do like grocery shop, laundry- and today I have to go to the dentist for a check up and cleaning-one of my least favorite things to do. Plus, I am still on the job hunt and need to spend a couple of hours online digging through the job ads which is stressful to say the least.
For those of you who don’t know..I was laid off from my wonderful nursing job working with awesome people who I was really beginning to think of as friends. I was given another job at the same hospital that was the exact oppositeas the first. I chose not to stay there after a couple of weeks of trying it out. The rug was really pulled out from under me as I did NOT see the lay off coming. The hospital was making a lot of cutbacks and there was some talk of lay offs because other hospitals around here have done it but I did not think I, personally, would be affected. The worst part for me is that I’ve struggled for a long time trying to find a “good” unit and I really thought this was “the one.”
BUT….I found 2 sites from my positivity files (I have so many files to share with you!) that have seriously helped me get motivated this morning. If you don’t need this today- skip it and know you can always come back to it on a day you feel you need a little extra oomph! The first one is just on applying what you learned and the second one is about letting go of “baggage.” Loving this quote today:
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”
For me that quote means to not dwell but to look ahead and just get going!
Below is the excerpt from http://vladdolezal.com/blog/ Vlad Dolezal just did his first video post and he is a cute kid ( he looks like he is T2’s age) with a cute accent and a great blog! I’m definitely adding him to my favs! :)
“Thomas Edison wasn’t any smarter than other scientists of his time. But he had a different attitude. Most would have given up after a few dozen failed attempts at making a light bulb, maybe a few hundred at the most. But Edison, when interviewed by a newspaper reporter after 800 unsuccessful attempts at making a light bulb about “what it feels like to have failed 800 times” answered…
“I haven’t failed 800 times. I haven’t failed once. What I have done, is I have succeeded in proving that those 800 ways won’t work. Once I eliminate all the ways that won’t work, I will find the one way that will.”
And sure enough, several years later, after thousands more “successful proofs” he managed to find a way that works, and thus illuminated the world.
The One Life-Transforming Attitude
Speaking of attitudes, I recently assimilated a new attitude. And it already made such a huge difference in my life, I just had to share it with you! Are you ready?
Whenever you learn something new, immediately ask yourself: “How can I apply this as soon as possible?”
A few weeks back, I was reading some old posts at one of my favorite self-improvement blogs – Scott H. Young.
And I noticed I was reading them differently.
In the past, I would read the posts, and think “Hmm, neat ideas!” But now, I read the posts, and think “Hmm, neat ideas! How can I apply them as soon as possible?”
So when I read the post where Scott describes how he reads for an hour every morning, I decided to try it. I had a big backlog of awesome books I wanted to read anyway!
And I am SO glad I decided to apply Scott’s advice! I already got through some absolutely fantastic books…” (more here: http://vladdolezal.com/blog/ )
Here is the other post I found here: http://www.google.com/reader/view/#stream/feed%2Fhttp%3A%2F%2Fwww.positivityblog.com%2Findex.php%2Ffeed%2F that I presonally need to practice!
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be”
“We need to learn to let go as easily as we grasp and we will find our hands full and our minds empty.”
Leo F. Buscaglia
We often carry with us a lot of stuff. Not in our hands perhaps. But in our minds. It can become like you are carrying half the world on your back. Not very helpful. So you need to let go of things. Not only to move lighter and more freely. But also to be able to fully move forward in life.
So how do you let things go?
I am certainly not expert at this but here are few tips that have made it easier for me to let go.
- Ask yourself helpful questions. Questions like: is this helping me or is it just some nonsense or something I’m reliving from the past? Or am I clinging to it because it’s what I have known for such a long time and it seems comfortable and safe even though it is holding me back?
- Give up “being right”. Realize that you may cling to things because they might make you feel right as you replay an argument or conflict over and over in your mind. It gives you a certain sense of satisfaction as the other person is wrong. But you have to give up that kind of satisfaction to move on.
- Understand that you get better at letting go as time passes. Not just because what you are carrying gets lighter with time and less painful. But also because your mind over time – for me it took months of practise – becomes more and more open to letting things go. It understands that letting go is something you can do nowadays. That it’s just a mental habit.
- Accept it. Then let it go.If you have read this blog for a while you know I like acceptance. I like it because when you accept something instead of resisting it you stop feeding more energy into your problem and making it even bigger. A bit counterintuitive. This is also useful when it comes to letting go. If you first accept what you want to let go you aren’t so emotionally attached to it and still feeding it with your focus and energy. And so it becomes less powerful and easier to just drop. As long as you resist it then it will be hard to let it go.
- Let it go if it shows up again.In my experience it’s pretty common that what you let go shows up in your thoughts again. And that’s ok. Just let it go each time it shows up. After a while it stops showing up.
What to let go?
Here are a few things you might want to let go of.
Let go of negative, small, petty and unimportant stuff.
If you dwell on that stuff – like how someone cut in front of you while you were driving or something negative your boss told you – and blow it out of proportion all the time how will you be happy? How will you be able to focus? And how will you be able to handle something really big when it comes along like a serious disease, a break up or getting laid off? Be smart about that stuff.
Don’t make yourself weak by making mountains out of molehills. Let that stuff go and focus on the more important and positive stuff you have and want in you life.
Let go of distracting stuff.
It’s easy to get caught up in checking your inbox all the time. Or filling your time with tasks that are kinda important but in the end are mostly distractions.
Letting that distracting stuff go from your life and thoughts as best you can makes is a lot easier to focus, find free time and remain on track to do what is most important for you in life.
Let go of trying to control the results of your actions.
I have already written about this in One Timeless Tip That Can Make Your Life a Whole Lot Easier. The post is about this quote from the ancient Sanskrit Hindu scripture Bhagavad Gita:
“To action alone hast thou a right and never at all to its fruits; let not the fruits of action be thy motive; neither let there be in thee any attachment to inaction”
This quote tells me to understand that I cannot control the results of my action. I can’t control how someone reacts to what I say or what I do. And that I should do what I do just because it is something I want to do rather than because of some outcome I’d like. But at the same time I should not let these two ideas lead me to become passive and get stuck in sitting on my hands and not taking action at all.
Basically, I do what I think is right and that is my responsibility. And then the rest (the possible results), well, that is not up for me to decide about or try to control. I let it go.
Let go of information you don’t need.
If you have read a lot about personal development then you might have a lot of tips on different topics in your head. To simplify your life and thinking you might not need 25 ways to handle nervousness.
Now articles with that many tips can be helpful but it’s important to try that stuff out for yourself and see what tips that work most effectively for you. And then simplify so you always know what action to take if you get nervous for example. Instead of having your mind so cluttered with information that you become paralyzed and take no action at all.
Let go of the past and old self-images.
I think this can be a big problem for many people. They get caught up in the past and relive it over and over (perhaps in their minds as old conflicts are on replay or by making the same negative decisions over and over again). Or sometimes they become trapped in their current circumstances as they think that they are what happened to them in the past. Of course, our self-images are fluid.
A few years ago I for instance saw myself as someone who didn’t eat healthy food or was athletic and worked out. Even when I started to do that a bit more I still kinda felt like the person I used to feel like when I was living in an unhealthy way.
Over time I started to think more and more of myself as someone who was healthy. But still shifted between the two self-images of being a healthy person and an unhealthy person. So since sometime around the beginning of this year I let go of that reassuring past image of myself that felt kinda comfortable. Since then, as my self-image as a healthy person has become consistent in my mind, I find it much easier to work out and eat healthy food. It seems like the natural thing for me to do now.
I think at some point you have to make a shift and let your old identity go if you want to grow. It may be your identity when it comes to health. Or money. Or socially.
If you try to improve but still cling to that old identity of who you were it will be very hard to move forward at your full capacity. And also harder work than it needs to be. When you are not holding on to that past image, when you stop working against yourself, then your current work to improve some part of yourself become more natural and many of the mental obstacles just disappear.
You will still be you if you let your past or an old self-image go. But it’s a new you, a simpler and lighter you