Don’t Give Up


Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush

Oh my goodness I love this song.  I could listen to it over and over.  Kate Bush’s voice is soothing and comforting.  Her words of hope are so sweet.

Interestingly, this song was written as the British coal miners strike entered its second year. It describes the utter destruction of the mining industry by Thatcher, the desolate impact on once macho workers and the increasing importance of the women who managed by hook or by crook to keep families and whole communities ticking over.

 

It can certainly have all sorts of meanings since it is a general message of hope in a time of despair.

 

“in this proud land we grew up strong
we were wanted all along
I was taught to fight, taught to win
I never thought I could fail”

 

Today is not like the Great Depression of the 1930s, but it is a depression. It is a depression in employment, in our economy and in our lives.  It is definitely depressing for the person who can’t find a job, a means to support their family.

 

 

 

 

“no fight left or so it seems
I am a man whose dreams have all deserted
I’ve changed my face, I’ve changed my name
but no one wants you when you lose”

statues of unemployed men standing in a unemployment line during the Great Depression at the FDR Memorial in Washington, D.C.

Too many people closed their doors for the last time.  They closed their door to their dream, their livelihood.

“though I saw it all around
never thought I could be affected
thought that we’d be the last to go
it is so strange the way things turn”

“moved on to another town
tried hard to settle down
for every job, so many men
so many men no-one needs”

‘got to walk out of here
I can’t take anymore
going to stand on that bridge
keep my eyes down below
whatever may come
and whatever may go
that river’s flowing
that river’s flowing”

If you are unemployed right now, or just feeling like things aren’t going your way, have hope.  Things can’t be bad forever.  You’re luck is gonna change.  I’ve been there myself at times in my life.  We all have.  I’ve been laid off at one time.  I was laid off during a nursing hiring freeze here in Arizona.  It was awful.  I felt hopeless.  I didn’t want to let anyone know how rough it really got.  Even being laid off for 4 months almost devastated us.  We could have lost our home if it had gone on much longer.  And I felt like that would have been my fault.  Even with a supportive husband, friends and family it was tough. It’s hard to put on a smiling face and get motivated to do a job search when you’re feeling so low.  I understand.  It’s not going to last forever though. I have more work than I want now and those days are just a memory.  Things are gonna change for you too.

“For a day, just for one day,
Talk about that which disturbs no one
And bring some peace into your
Beautiful eyes.”
― حافظThe Subject Tonight Is Love: 60 Wild and Sweet Poems of Hafiz

Take comfort in Kate Bush’s words from this song:

don’t give up
‘cos you have friends
don’t give up
you’re not beaten yet
don’t give up I know you can make it good

don’t give up
you still have us
don’t give up
we don’t need much of anything
don’t give up
’cause somewhere there’s a place where we belong

rest your head

you worry too much
it’s going to be alright
when times get rough
you can fall back on us
don’t give up
please don’t give up

don’t give up
’cause you have friends
don’t give up
you’re not the only one
don’t give up
no reason to be ashamed
don’t give up
you still have us
don’t give up now
we’re proud of who you are
don’t give up
you know it’s never been easy
don’t give up
’cause I believe there’s a place
there’s a place where we belong

comforting hug in grief

“Every day, a new opportunity to decide where your next step will go is given to you. Your future will be determined by the accumulation of these daily decisions. You control your steps and therefore your destiny, so choose wisely.”

~Kevin Ngo~

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self fulfilling prophesy


Self- fulfilling Prophesy

Beautiful Disaster Rainbow Colours
If you can believe it, you can achieve it!  ~Walt Disney

I’ve been thinking a lot about the self-fulfilling prophesy.  The first time I learned about it was when my husband was in college.  He came home and told me about a study he learned that was done on kindergarten children.  At the beginning of the year the kids were tested in various subjects and comprehension.  The kids that scored the highest were put into one group and the kids that scored the lowest in another.However, the teacher and the students were told that the group that scored the lowest- scored the highest and vice versa (switching them up).  By the end of the year they retested and the opposite was true!  So the kids that originally scored the highest but were told they were the low scoring group actually did test low by the end of the year.  They attributed this to the self fulfilling prophesy.  Not as much was expected from the high scoring kids so they didn’t do well.  Even more amazing though- the kids that scored the lowest originally, exceeded the rest of the class by the end of the year because more was expected of them and they BELIEVED they were smarter.This is not a theory.  It is true and happens time and time again.  Ask any successful person and they will tell you that they believed in themselves or they had someone who believed in them.  I believe it is impossible to achieve a goal if you DON”T believe you can accomplish it.I am truly fascinated by this! Once we realize this, we can be our own coach.

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. 
Thomas Jefferson

Another example of the self fulfilling prophesy is this one:
Stephanie Madon, an Iowa State University psychologist, investigated parents’ expectations about their children’s alcohol use. She discovered that when both parents believe that a child will abuse alcohol, in fact, the child is likely to drink more than expected. This holds true even when signs, such as past alcohol use and friends’ behavior, suggest a teenager is at low risk. The findings support the social theory that prophecies are especially self-fulfilling for stereotyped groups. link Psychology Today

Could you imagine the implications on that child???

My husband told me when I was going to nursing school that it didn’t matter how inherently smart I was but how hard I tried.  He is a teacher and has seen that time and time again with his students.  He is the reason I succeeded and actually did very well in school.  He believed in me.  He told me so many times that he knows for sure I have what it takes to do well and I believed him because I trust and love him and knew with all my heart he wouldn’t steer me wrong. As a result I succeeded.

Can I apply this to different aspects of my life; new goals? Of course!  I had a patient who lost a considerable amount of weight.  When asked how she accomplished it she said she PRETENDED to have gastric bypass surgery.  It just goes to show you that the mind is a very powerful force!

The ones that put forth the effort and are diligent about their work, patient and determined tend to do better over all and retain more information than the ones who perhaps have more natural ability but don’t apply themselves.  Makes sense.

They can because they think they can.Virgil


I think it is so important to instill confidence in our young people today.  I hope that one parent reads this and decides to treat their child differently because of it.  Who knows?  That could be the one who grows up to cure cancer, become a great explorer or inventor, possibly change the world.

beauti horse
The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
Frank Loyd Wright



Hugs, FeeFee

moments of clarity


“A few times in my life, I’ve had moments of absolute clarity. When for a few brief seconds the silence drowns out the noise and I can feel rather than think… And things seem so sharp and the world seems so fresh. I can never make these moments last. I cling to them, but like everything, they fade. I have lived for these moments. They pull me back to the present, and I realize that everything is exactly the way it was meant to be.”
 

can’t possibly describe


“There are also sorts of experiences that we can’t really put a name to. The birth of a child, for one. Or the death of a parent. Falling in love. Words are like nets – we hope they’ll cover what we mean, but we know they can’t possibly hold that much joy, or grief, or wonder. Finding God is like that too. If it’s happened to you, you know what it feels like. But try to describe it to someone else – and language only takes you so far.”
~ Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart